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Minerva's Breakdown

Advice for those on the verge


Dear Minerva,

I'm going to be moving in with my significant other within the next month and it will be the first time I've lived with anyone other than my parents. I'm nervous that after living with me they won't like me anymore, will hate my habits or something of the sort. Is there anything that can help me relieve some anxiety about living with someone?


—Seeking Domestic Bliss

Dear Bliss,

I can understand your nervousness about moving in with someone. I think that we have all felt that way, whether moving in with a significant other or a roommate. We worry our little private idiosyncrasies will drive those we care about to resent us. I am going to assume that you have been involved with your significant other for a long period of time before deciding to move in with one another. I would venture that while there will definitely be a period of adjustment, you know enough about each other to not let the small stuff get in the way. You will likely find some things annoy you about each other. It is part of life but, if the love is real, then you will find that your feelings for each other will outweigh any annoyances you have. Communication is key to the success of your domesticity. Just be yourself and if that is so annoying to them you can't live together, then take it as a sign that you should move on to something better.