How do you tell your partner you have an STD?
—Itchin' to Know
Oh my! What a potentially inflammatory conversation you are about to have! STDs are a fact of life in this world. Thankfully many of them are treatable, curable and easy to prevent. However, that doesn't change the delicate nature of discharging the truth to your partner who absolutely must know before the next sexual activity occurs. My burning questions are whether or not you had the STD before you became involved and if you knew about it before entering into this relationship. Some STDs/STIs are asymptomatic to some people—they may not know they are carrying them. Whether you contracted this from your partner, before you became involved with your partner or due to an indiscretion, you have to fess up. When you get your diagnosis from your doctor, sit down with your partner and let them know that an unwelcome guest has made an appearance. Yes, this could be an uncomfortable conversation with revelations that may be unpleasant. It might be an opportunity to hear the truth or maybe an opportunity for your partner to check out their sexual health as well. Treating your STD and treating the underlying relationship issues might be a bummer while it is happening, but you will be glad that you did in the long run. You owe it to yourself and your partner to face the dirty truth about STDs. I wish you luck, sweetness.