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Minerva's Breakdown

Advice for those on the verge


Dear Minerva,

I have a problem. I've been dating this guy who treats me like gold. He has a great job, a great personality and he is so attentive to me. I love being around him. We recently started having sex and while I enjoy being with him, he doesn't measure up. His penis is small, and I need something more. I can't seem to get over his manhood. Am I bad person?

Size Queen

Dear Size Queen,

This question does pop up, so to speak, from time to time. Are you a bad person for desiring more from him than he can provide physically? Not necessarily. Does it smell of shallowness? Yes. He obviously cannot control the size of his penis. What can he control? His personality, his ability to provide and the way he treats you. From what you've said about him, he sounds like a solid guy. Trust me, he is aware and probably worried every moment that he doesn't satisfy you. The heart—and whatever other organs—want what they want. That alone does not make you a bad person. However, we live in a world where sexual satisfaction is only a trip to the sex shop away. Get creative. If you still can't deal with the reality of his endowment, then put him back on the market. He deserves someone who sees his manhood is not based on his penis but on the other qualities he has nurtured.