You state strong opinions with class, yet somehow avoid the current abusive socio-political fray in our country. What would you recommend to keep such a well-focused perspective?
—Sincerely, Fray Melee
DEAR FRAY MELEE,
While I definitely have my opinions on the sociopolitical status of our country, I don't receive questions to the column regarding politics very often. As for keeping a well-focused perspective, I have my moments when I lose that perspective. We all do. When I think that issues are getting out of hand and the world is spinning out of control, I take a minute to remember that I can't control what other people are going to do in their lives. What I can do is remember what kind of person I want to be, what kind of people I want to associate with, and what kind of world I want to have. That will lead my decisions and allow me to remain at least somewhat graceful. I actively force myself not to "scream into the void," but to rather use my words where I feel they can be the most helpful. Politics are important. I don't negate that. Society is still showing us where we aren't up to par in our treatment of our fellow humans. Knowing oneself, one's values and what one stands for allows for clarity. Then "walking the walk" is much easier when it's time to walk around, or, as the case so often is, through the abusive fray. Avoiding the fray isn't an option. Keeping our heads up is.