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Minerva's Breakdown: Back in the Saddle

What kind of advice do you have for the mature woman regarding sex?


Dear Minerva:

What kind of advice do you have for the mature woman regarding sex? I'm post-menopause and I want to have a sex life but I definitely feel different than I used to. I don't think that I can keep up and I want to be prepared since I have started dating again after the loss of my husband. Any insight you have would be helpful.


Back in the Saddle

Dear Back In:

Congratulations on starting to explore a sexual life. Sex post-menopause is not going to be the same as you might have been used to. The reality of aging is that sex, like everything else, changes. Don't fret. Mature people are having great, fulfilling, joyful sex and there's no reason that you can't, too. Consult with your gynecologist. While people face similar challenges with aging and sexuality, everybody is different, and your doctor should be able to assess your individual concerns. One of the important aspects of sexual health is making sure that you are aware of ways to protect yourself from sexually transmitted infections (STIs). STI rates have increased in people 60+. Using protection, like condoms, will help to decrease your chances of acquiring an STI. Also, keep the lines of communication open with your partner(s). Telling them what feels good for you at this age, and being understanding of their changes, as well, will lead to more fulfilling sexual experiences. You deserve a meaningful, satisfying sex life. Embrace the beauty and wisdom that comes with age.