I have a friend who I've known for a long time. He presents himself as a well-connected and influential person. The problem is, he's lying about almost all of his connections and exaggerates his relationships. I have done some research on him and his alleged history, and nothing pans out. He can be very charming, but his lies are making me sick. I want to call him out, but I am not sure how I should go about it. What should I do?
Sincerely, Can't Handle the Truth
I know finding out that you have been lied to is a yucky feeling. There is no way around that, but I think what you are dealing with is something less malicious than a lie we are truly hurt by. We've all known the tall-tale tellers. Some people get so excited about the things in their life, their elation can get the better of them and they exaggerate the meaningfulness of their connections. Some people don't feel good about themselves and embellish to make themselves seem more elite than they really are. These sort of "lies" don't really hurt anyone and are difficult to conclusively disprove. My suggestion is to ignore it because it isn't hurting anyone, and if you're aware he's bending the truth, then you can be certain others are aware also. The graceful thing would be to be a bigger person and allow him to cling to his illusions.