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Anonymously Single: Thanksgiving

Flying solo at family holiday functions can be stressful


Thanksgiving is a time to reflect on all the things you have to be thankful for: family, friends, health, freedom, etc. ... It can also be a time to deal with drunk and nosy relatives. It's a shame you don't have anyone to bring home for the holidays this year. I hear women are waiting longer to start families, but aren't you worried you've passed your prime? Your cousin Camille is celebrating her 10-year anniversary next year—we always thought that would be you. Thanks for all the support, Aunt Bev!

While that stings, and I often have a headache after Thanksgiving from rolling my eyes and drinking too much wine, I wouldn't change a thing. I love my life. I have a lot to be thankful for. I do go to Thanksgiving dinner stag, but 10 years with my cousin's husband feels like a life sentence to me. I love helping with the dishes and drying my grandmother's silver that we only get out for special occasions. I get to play with all the little kids and not worry about them having a stomachache when they get home because they ate too much. I'm fortunate to have a family to celebrate with, no matter how dysfunctional it may be.

Maybe you don't have family in town and aren't able to go home. Don't sit at home and wallow in your single status! Meet up with friends and do a Friendsgiving! Sometimes your friends can feel more like family anyway. I do a Friendsgiving before Thanksgiving every year and it reminds me how grateful I am to have those people in my life. I also enjoy giving back around the holidays. There are so many opportunities to partner with a non-profit or church to give to a family in need. The act of giving back not only does something for the person you are giving to, but it gives you that warm fuzzy feeling as well.

I am thankful for all of you and hope you have something to be thankful for this Thanksgiving. Cheers to you!

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